Fantasy Vs. Desire
A crucial step in understanding your erotic imagination is making a clear distinction between FANTASY and DESIRE. Many people try to start talking about sex by saying something like “Tell me about...
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Wanting something and liking it are two different things – and it is worth getting to know your own circuits of wanting vs. liking – so you know which pleasures might be most satisfying! Wanting is all...
View ArticleSexual Techniques
Developing sexual techniques is not cold or clinical – it is a pleasurable way to build your skills and confidence as a lover and be able to give your lover the kind of touch and stimulation they...
View ArticlePleasure Mechanics Answer Vault
Here you will find some of the most common questions we get asked with links to podcast episodes and other resources to explore! If you have a question you want our support with, the first step is to...
View ArticleSafety, Play & Arousal
Play is excitement added to a foundation of safe connection. Without safety, what is supposed to be fun can become fearful. The human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and...
View ArticleBefore Pleasure Comes Safety
Intimacy, pleasure and erotic arousal all require a sense of safety to emerge. In this episode we explore why the human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and erotic...
View ArticleAnal Pleasure 101
For all bodies, it is an area with a vast potential for pleasure, arousal and orgasm. It is designed for erotic pleasure and is one of the most sensitive zones of the entire body. Stimulation of the...
View ArticleCome As You Are
Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life by Emily Nagoski is a must-read for anyone interested in human sexuality – and since you are here, we bet that is you! This...
View ArticlePleasure Is The Measure
“Pleasure Is The Measure! Of sexual wellbeing, I mean. Pleasure. Not how much you want sex, not how much sex you have, or with whom, or what you do, or where or how often. The key to assessing your own...
View ArticleSex Worth Wanting
A lot of people ask us about desire – why don’t I want sex more? I used to want sex way more than I do now. What is wrong with me? What does it mean if I want sex, but not with my partner? These are...
View ArticleSex Addiction Myth & Facts
What is sex addiction? Can sex be addictive? Am I addicted to sex? How do I treat my sex addiction? Is sex addiction really a myth? Here’s what is undeniably true: many people struggle with an...
View ArticleCAYA Bonus Reel
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View ArticleCome As You Are : An Interview With Emily Nagoski
Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life by Emily Nagoski is a must-read for anyone interested in human sexuality – and since you are here, we bet that is you! This...
View ArticleHow To Be A Good Kisser
Want to be a better kisser? You are not alone! A lot of folks write to us asking for advice on how to be a good kisser. Many people are still insecure about their kissing skills. So here are some...
View ArticleA Sexplanation : An Interview With Documentary Filmmaker Alex Liu
A Sexplanation is a new documentary, hitting the film festival circuit now, that offers a joyful exploration of what’s happening with sex education in North America, and the very personal impact of the...
View ArticleErotic Game Play
Legendary kink educator Midori says “BDSM is joyous play with adult sexual privilege & cool toys” Spanking, bondage and other forms of kinky sex are really just elaborate forms of play for adults....
View ArticleActive Enthusiastic Consent
Consent is absolutely essential at every stage of erotic exploration. So what is consent? Far beyond saying “yes,” consent means active and enthusiastic participation in your own experience. Consent is...
View ArticleSafeWords For Better Sex
Safewords We like to think of kinky sex as a form of Erotic Game Play. All games have some version of a “time-out” – where the game is put on hold and players can take a breather, check in about...
View ArticleBoundaries For Better Sex
Learn How To Say Yes No and Maybe Establishing and maintaining boundaries is a skill that is sorely missing in most of our lives. We often say “yes” when we want to say “no” for fear of hurting someone...
View ArticleKink Questions, Answered
Common Kink Questions and Concerns: Answered!Here are some of the more common questions we get asked about spanking and kinky play. Ready to explore with us? Embark on Your Next Erotic Adventure –...
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