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We received the following email in response to our podcast episode on flirting while married. We believe this topic is essential for long term relationships, so we tackled it again! Is flirting a form of cheating? What is the difference between erotic energy and erotic attention? Can flirting actually help a marriage thrive?
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Comment:
Hello I’d like to start off by saying how much I enjoy your podcasts. The reason I am writing this is to discuss your podcasts on marriage and flirting. I am not married however I strongly disagree with the views showed on the podcast. I agree that we are all sexual beings filled with sexual energy however, spreading that energy around will mean less energy to be spent on your partner. I would agree with the views expressed if the show was discussing an open or swingers marriage. I do agree that attraction to others will always be there however if your flirtation has gotten to the point of discussing boundaries you have already gone to far Unless of course your in an open or swingers marriage. Thanks for reading.
Response:
Thanks, Luis, for being in touch and sharing your thoughts!
We think this is a really interesting point and plan on doing a follow-up on our podcast, I’ll send you the link when we do!
Ultimately, I think there is a distinction between erotic energy and attention. Energy is not a fixed commodity that gets depleted when you flirt with someone else – in fact, most people report feeling MORE energy after a flirtatious engagement. But attention is more scarce – the amount of time we spend paying intimate attention to our lover. So if you are at a party with your spouse, and spend the time flirting with everyone else and ignoring your wife, yes that can feel like a “leak” or even a betrayal. But if you are out to lunch alone during work, and have a nice simple flirtation with a lady, then come home to your wife feeling great about yourself and a little turned on, perhaps you pay even more attention to her and bring your more confident self into your relationship. Does that make sense?
We’ll talk more about it on an upcoming episode and pass the link along once it is up!
We appreciate your listening and being in conversation with us – thanks!
Chris
Reply:
Thanks and you make a valid point. I will have to agree that flirting builds up more energy… I guess I still feel there is no need to talk about boundaries if it is innocent .. Also with the building up of energy(kundalini) I feel most people are unaware of its power and can’t control it which will ultimately lead most into an affair which can be seen by the high divorce rates in western society ….
I look forward to the podcast ….
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We received the following email in response to our podcast episode on flirting while married. We believe this topic is essential for long term relationships, so we tackled it again! Is flirting a form of cheating? What is the difference between erotic energy and erotic attention? Can flirting actually help a marriage thrive?