A listener named Ryan called in with a very personal question. Nearly every time he tries to pleasure his wife, she responds by cringing and saying “ouch” or giggling. He tries to be a sensitive lover but she never seems to be able to relax and enjoy his touch.
We give Ryan, and everyone else who has a partner who can’t seem to enjoy sex, lots of advice and strategies to try to have a more spontaneous and pleasurable sex life. Our intuition leads us to believe there may be something going on beyond the relationship, a hidden cause for the hypersensitivity Ryan’s wife experiences.
This emotionally charged episode is a must-listen for anyone who has struggled to stay present during sex or had a partner who responds to touch in unexpected ways.
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
The Pleasure Mechanics Couples Massage Videos
Healing Sex by Staci Haines (In the podcast I use the original title, The Survivor’s Guide to Sex – that’s how long this book has been an essential part of my library!)
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